Myth #1 Asking for consent ruins the mood
False: There are ways to turn them on AND get consent đ„
Getting clear, enthusiastic consent doesnât need to be a mood killer. In fact, when itâs done right it can be a huge turn on. đ
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Here are some fun things you could try:
- Hold their face gently, look them in the eye and ask âMay I kiss you?â
- Ask âwhere do you want to be kissed next?â and make them list different body parts for you to keep exploring
- Tease them! Stop what youâre doing and playfully say âI will only keep touching you if you tell me exactly what you wantâ.Â
- âTell me your hottest fantasyâ - this is also fun to text each other.
- Mid passion, stop and whisper what youâd like to do to them; eg âDo you like having your hands held above your head?â
- Ask âwhat would make this feel even better?â
- Massage and tease their butt and say âI will only spank you if you beg for itâ
- Ask âDo you like it when I play with your X like this?â
- Tell them to âPut my hand where you want itâ
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Alice Child
Somatic Sexologist and Sex Coach
@AliceChildOfficial